Conversation With No Props: From One Soul to Another

by Suzanne on March 7, 2012

Since I work from my home, there are times I begin to feel disconnected from the rest of the world.  Not good.  Our spiritual feeling of disconnection leads us to forget that we are all one in Love.  So the physical and emotional disconnection we often experience in our technology-enriched laden lives pushes us deeper into the place of spiritual disconnect.

When I become aware that I am reaching that point – when I haven’t seen or spoken to anyone for a few days (and I don’t count speaking on the phone), it’s time to reach out and touch someone.

My caveat in the previous paragraph was that I don’t count speaking on the phone as connecting with someone.  How many people do you see every day with their cell phones glued to their ears for hours at a time, focused not on the conversation they are having, but on their shopping, or making the kids a snack, or paying bills online?  You know what I’m talking about.  Then add in Tweeting, Facebooking, and whatever new “-ing” is the trend today, and suddenly we find all forms of communication with family and friends takes place through some electronic device.  Heck, the friend could be running a robot program that sounds just like him, while he’s off digging his soccer shoes out of the closet. 

“…and then I say to him, well if that’s what you wanted you should have dated that…”  Your friend doesn’t know you’ve previously recorded this conversation and have your friends on a robo-call list which is your way of connecting with each of them every day so no one feels like you’ve forgotten them.

At the other end of the line, your friend’s phone-answering robot analyzes your comment about the sanity of your newly designated ex-boyfriend and selects from a list of pre-recorded responses appropriate to the situation.  “Uh, huh.  Yeah, you tell him, girl.” 

Even when both of you are actually on the phones, do you feel a real empathy for your friend’s problems?  Or, are you just waiting for the call to end so you can go Facebook about the latest sale at your favorite store?  Or maybe you can do both from your up-to-date phone?

It just doesn’t feel like a real connection unless I can look into the eyes of my friend, see the emotion on her face, and touch her hand when I tell her I’m there to hear her.  To truly hear her… to hear what her heart is saying.

How long has it been since you’ve sat down with a friend or friends, shared your dreams and worries, and really listened before responding to what they are saying?  No cell phones, no texts, no chatting while at a movie and calling it a connection, nothing manmade as a prop for the conversation.  Just friends sitting or walking together, re-making the connection that drew them together to start with.

I’m calling a friend as soon as I post this, not to “communicate” on the phone, but to say I miss seeing her smiling face and that I’m on my way over to walk through her garden with her, to rediscover what and how she feels about her life today.  I know I’ll be grateful I shared my time with her.    I know we’ll both feel more one with Peace for our time together.

So what are you waiting for?  You may be amazed and gratified to discover all the things you’ve forgotten you enjoyed about your friend.

Leave a comment and let us know what you discover about looking into someone’s eyes and making that soul-to-soul connection.


Kristine Adams March 9, 2012 at 5:36 am

It’s fun to read your insight on topics I’ve also contemplated–looking forward to tending the growing plant of our friendship, Suzanne.

SuzanneG March 9, 2012 at 1:13 pm

Kristine, thanks for dropping by. I know we’ll have our face-to-face sharing often. It’s good to work with friends who are passionate about the same things I am. As my grandmother used to say, y’all come on back, you hear?

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